It’s okay to feel good about yourself. Heck, it’s okay to feel so freaking awesome about yourself. Self-love is not selfish in the slightest.
We have been conditioned to pick out every little flaw in ourselves. Instead of seeing our body image as a glass half-full, the glass never appears to be full enough. We aren’t pretty enough, we aren’t smart enough, we aren’t tall enough. What about if we flip those thoughts on their head and say We aren’t confident enough?
The other day as I was taking my friend Haily home, she confessed something to me that completely changed my perspective. We were discussing boys and prom and your typical girl stuff when she said, “this is bad, but I love myself. Probably too much.” I was shocked. First, because of her bravery in sharing a sentiment so vulnerable to her. Second, because of her rationalizing her feelings of self-confidence. But most of all, I was so incredibly proud. How lucky I was to be surrounded by friends that cherished their own self-worth just as much as they cherished the people around them. If only we lived in a world where everyone thought like Haily.
In a world where self-depreciating humor rules the comedy scene and extreme makeover shows fill up the guides of modern television, we are accustomed to feeling bad about ourselves just because it’s what we’ve grown up with, what we know, what we think is normal. What if we were taught to love ourselves just as much as we love others?
For the longest time I refused to let myself feel good about myself. During the days of my eating disorder I denied myself this acceptance because I truly did not believe I met societal standards. Now, I often dismiss my good body image days as being too selfish and egotistical. When I let go of my emotional thinking and put on my logical hat, I realize how ridiculous this pattern of self-depreciation is.
This morning, while getting ready as I normally do, I looked in the mirror and felt extremely confident. My hair was voluminous, my winged eyeliner on fleek, my smile glimmering because of the wonderful potential of the day ahead of me. For the first time in a long while, I allowed myself to love myself. To feel confident in my own skin felt amazing and I couldn’t understand why I had never let myself feel this way before. I finally allowed myself love to myself, just as my dear friend Haily does.
Now give yourself a chance and release your inner Haily. You owe it to yourself and the rest of the world.