Being told no is not the worst thing that could happen to you.
And it has taken me a good 18 years to truly conceptualize this idea. I Used to think, and this was not long ago, that rejection was the greatest of all evils, that those who denied us of our requests were mean spirited, cruel human beings. But now I see things differently.
In my own life I have also recently realized the importance of being able to set my own boundaries, which often times means saying no to situations and people when I know I can’t/don’t want to add another thing on my plate. Within this life lesson of learning to say no to other people, I have also learned that it’s okay if other people say no to me. Because really, we can’t all be super humans with the impossible power of saying yes to every favor that is asked of us!
But by no means has this prevented me from asking others for something that I need/want. In fact, the opposite situation has occurred: I am now more willing than ever to voice my desires to other people. My new motto has become “why the hell not?” and my actions reflect that (reasonably of course!). Every time I am faced with a situation in which I am hesitant to ask for what I truly want, I tell myself that the absolute worst thing that can happen is the other person says no. Then I would move on.
When I think about situations in this manner, I know that I would much rather be rejected by 100 consecutive people than wallow in my regrets and what-ifs. For if I ask someone for something, I either am granted my desire or I am exactly where I was before I asked. There is nothing to be lost, only gained.
Internalizing that “no” is an acceptable answer has really changed me as a human. Spontaneity, bravery, and positivity have now sped into my life like race horses with fresh legs, and I don’t foresee these qualities vanishing anytime soon.
There’s no stopping me now that I’m no longer afraid of a silly two letter word. No freaking way. (insert emoji with sweet shades).